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If It Looks Like You’re Failing…You’re Actually Learning

August 23rd, 2009

If you become frustrated when learning a new skill or studying a new area, take a moment and recall what it was like riding a bicycle2when you were learning to play a sport for the first time or what it was like when you were learning to ride your bicycle for the first time.  As you are recalling this experience consider this thought:

Before you had balance things were very wobbly, that you fell many, many times, but eventually you got balance on the bike and in order to get that balance you had to get on the bike again and again and again. When learning to play baseball, for example, there were times when maybe you got “beaned” on the head, slide into a base and got a scraped knee, get dirty and muddy, got sun in your eyes, dropped the ball, the other team got a run, some time the game was canceled but you came back to another game the next day.  Sometimes the team may win yet it may also tie or loose.  Learning and outcomes are uncertain… the only certainty is that we stay the in the game.  That’s how we learn. Read more »

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Tiger Woods and His Golf Game

August 2nd, 2009

Our children need to know that disappointments, problems, failures are bound to happen, they are inevitable, and that is part of life.

sand trapThe box problems come in, the way we think about problems is, “there is something wrong with me” or “this shouldn’t have happened, I’m dumb.”

Let your adolescent know: Feelings are not facts and self-critical thoughts are not facts. Problems and failures don’t mean anything negative about us or that there is something wrong with us of that failure shouldn’t have happened.  Tiger Woods is the best golfer in history and his golf ball will sometimes go into a sand trap.  Sometimes he might have aimed it there because his stance was off or his concentration; sometimes he didn’t aim it there but the wind took it there.  Read more »

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