{"id":523,"date":"2014-06-14T22:29:15","date_gmt":"2014-06-14T22:29:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/?p=523"},"modified":"2014-06-14T23:12:38","modified_gmt":"2014-06-14T23:12:38","slug":"10-painfully-obvious-truths-everyone-forgets-too-soon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/?p=523","title":{"rendered":"10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon"},"content":{"rendered":"

THE TRUTH DOES NOT CEASE TO EXIST WHEN IT IS IGNORED<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\"Ignore_Truth\"<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

1.The average human life is relatively short
\n<\/span>We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know.\u00a0 It\u2019s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step.\u00a0 You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself o ff balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is.\u00a0 LIVE your life TODAY!\u00a0 Don\u2019t ignore death, but don\u2019t be afraid of it either.\u00a0 Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action.\u00a0 Death is not the greatest loss in life.\u00a0 The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you\u2019re still alive.\u00a0 Be bold.\u00a0 Be courageous.\u00a0 Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.<\/p>\n

2. You will only ever live the life you create for yourself
\n<\/span>Your life is yours alone.\u00a0 Others can try to persuade you, but they can\u2019t decide for you.\u00a0 They can walk with you, but not in your shoes.\u00a0 So make sure the path you\u00a0decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don\u2019t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense. Remember, it\u2019s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don\u2019t.\u00a0 Be productive and patient.\u00a0 And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.\u00a0 This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices.\u00a0 May your actions speak louder than your words.\u00a0 May your life preach louder than your lips.\u00a0 May your success be your noise in the end. And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it.\u00a0 Even if you have no idea where you\u2019re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart.<\/p>\n

3.Being busy does NOT mean being productive
\n<\/span>Busy-ness isn\u2019t a virtue, nor is it something to respect.\u00a0 Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time.\u00a0 We simply don\u2019t know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should. Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days.\u00a0 Just take a quick look around.\u00a0 Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin.\u00a0 Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time.\u00a0 They\u2019re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc.\u00a0 They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep.\u00a0 Yet, emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations.\u00a0 Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance.\u00a0 But it\u2019s all an illusion.\u00a0 They\u2019re like hamsters running on a wheel. Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term.\u00a0 We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.<\/p>\n

4. Some kind of failure always occurs before success
\n<\/span>Most mistakes are unavoidable.\u00a0 Learn to forgive yourself.\u00a0 It\u2019s not a problem to make them.\u00a0 It\u2019s only a problem if you never learn from them. If you\u2019re too afraid of failure, you can\u2019t possibly do what needs to be done to be successful.\u00a0 The solution to this problem is making friends with failure.\u00a0 You want to know the difference between a master and a beginner?\u00a0 The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried.\u00a0 Behind every great piece of art is a thousand failed attempts to make it, but these attempts are simply never shown to us. Bottom line:\u00a0 Just because it\u2019s not happening now, doesn\u2019t mean it never will.\u00a0 Sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right.<\/p>\n

5. Thinking and doing are two very different things<\/span>
\nSuccess never comes to look for you while you wait around thinking about it. You are what you do, not what you say you\u2019ll do.\u00a0 Knowledge is basically useless without action.\u00a0 Good things don\u2019t come to those who wait; they come to those who work on meaningful goals.\u00a0 Ask yourself what\u2019s really important and then have the courage to build your life around your answer. \u00a0Remember, if you wait until you feel 100% ready to begin, you\u2019ll likely be waiting the rest of your life.<\/p>\n

6. You don\u2019t have to wait for an apology to forgive
\n<\/span>Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got.\u00a0 The key is to be thankful for every experience \u2013 positive or negative.\u00a0 It\u2019s taking a step back and saying, \u201cThank you for the lesson.\u201d\u00a0 It\u2019s realizing that grudges from the past are a perfect waste of today\u2019s happiness, and that holding one is like letting unwanted company live rent free in your head. Forgiveness is a promise\u2014one you want to keep. When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self. It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.<\/p>\n

7. Some people are simply the wrong match for you<\/span>
\nYou will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down.\u00a0 You shouldn\u2019t force connections with people who constantly make you feel less than amazing. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable and insecure every time you\u2019re with them, for whatever reason, they\u2019re probably not close friend material.\u00a0 If they make you feel like you can\u2019t be yourself, or if they make you \u201cless than\u201d in any way, don\u2019t pursue a connection with them.\u00a0 If you feel emotionally drained after hanging out with them or get a small hit of anxiety when you are reminded of them, listen to your intuition.\u00a0 There are so many \u201cright people\u201d for you, who energize you and inspire you to be your best self.\u00a0 It makes no sense to force it with people who are the wrong match for you.<\/p>\n

8. It\u2019s not other people\u2019s job to love you; it\u2019s yours<\/span>
\nIt\u2019s important to be nice to others, but it\u2019s even more important to be nice to yourself.\u00a0 You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.\u00a0 So make sure you don\u2019t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don\u2019t value you.\u00a0 Know your worth, even if they don\u2019t. Today, let someone love you just the way you are \u2013 as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as incomplete as you think you are.\u00a0 Yes, let someone love you despite all of this\u2026AND LET THAT SOMEONE BE YOU.<\/p>\n

9. What you own is not who YOU are<\/span>
\nStuff really is just stuff, and it has absolutely no bearing on who you are as a person.\u00a0 Most of us can make do with much less than we think we need.\u00a0 That\u2019s a valuable reminder, especially in a hugely consumer-driven culture that focuses more on material things than meaningful connections and experiences. You have to create your own culture.\u00a0 Don\u2019t watch TV, don\u2019t read every fashion magazine, and don\u2019t consume too much of the evening news.\u00a0 Find the strength to fill your time with meaningful experiences.\u00a0 The space and time you are occupying at this very moment is LIFE, and if you\u2019re worrying about Kim Kardashian or Lebron James or some other famous face, then you are disempowered.\u00a0 You\u2019re giving your life away to marketing and media trickery, which is created by big companies to ultimately motivate you to want to dress a certain way, look a certain way, and be a certain way.\u00a0 This is tragic, this kind of thinking.\u00a0 It\u2019s all just Hollywood brainwashing.\u00a0 What is real is YOU and your friends and your family, your loves, your highs, your hopes, your plans, your fears, etc. Too often we\u2019re told that we\u2019re not important, we\u2019re just peripheral to what is.\u00a0 \u201cGet a degree, get a job, get a car, get a house, and keep on getting.\u201d\u00a0 And it\u2019s sad, because someday you\u2019ll wake up and realize you\u2019ve been tricked.\u00a0 And all you\u2019ll want then is to reclaim your mind by getting it out of the hands of the brainwashers who want to turn you into a drone that buys everything that isn\u2019t needed to impress everyone that isn\u2019t important.<\/p>\n

10. Everything changes, every second\u00a0<\/span>
\nEmbrace change and realize it happens for a reason.\u00a0 It won\u2019t always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it. What you have today may become what you had by tomorrow.\u00a0 You never know.\u00a0 Things change, often spontaneously.\u00a0 People and circumstances come and go.\u00a0 Life doesn\u2019t stop for anybody.\u00a0 It moves rapidly and rushes from calm to chaos in a matter of seconds, and happens like this to people every day.\u00a0 It\u2019s likely happening to someone nearby right now. Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the direction of our lives.\u00a0 A seemingly innocuous decision rattles our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth.\u00a0 Entire lives have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse, on the strength of an unpredictable event.\u00a0 And these events are always happening. However good or bad a situation is now, it will change.\u00a0 That\u2019s the one thing you can count on.\u00a0 So when life is good, enjoy it.\u00a0 Don\u2019t go looking for something better every second.\u00a0 Happiness never comes to those who don\u2019t appreciate what they have while they have it.<\/p>\n

(adapted from marckandangel<\/a>, 6\/10\/24)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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