{"id":14,"date":"2009-08-03T11:54:15","date_gmt":"2009-08-03T16:54:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/?p=14"},"modified":"2013-11-18T20:33:45","modified_gmt":"2013-11-18T20:33:45","slug":"real-guilt-false-guilt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/?p=14","title":{"rendered":"Real Guilt \/ False Guilt"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>There is a difference between the two.\u00a0 There are two questions to assess real guilt:\u00a0 did I break the law; did I do something to better myself at the expense of another person\u2019s well being.\u00a0 <img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/guilt.jpg\" alt=\"guilt\" width=\"225\" height=\"225\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-369\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/guilt.jpg 225w, http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/08\/guilt-150x150.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/a>If the answer is yes to either of these questions, then the feeling of guilt is very healthy because it tells us we are doing something that isn\u2019t okay.\u00a0 False-guilt is driven by the tyranny of should and it is a consequence of self-accusations that are demoralizing.\u00a0 The experience of guilt in this case is very real\u2014no doubt about it\u2014but the source of the guilt is not based in reality but in our self-berating thoughts that have as much substance as dust bunnies.A friend and colleague of mine,\u00a0 Karen Stevensen, MSW, had said that one of the purposes of guilt is to give us a sensation, a tap on the shoulder so to speak, that whispers to us\u00a0we\u00a0 need to correct the behavior.\u00a0 Once we acknowledge that, then we can let go of the guilt because it has served its purpose. \u00a0The purpose of this guilty feeling is corrective in nature and once we change our behavior guilt must be released.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There is a difference between the two.\u00a0 There are two questions to assess real guilt:\u00a0 did I break the law; did I do something to better myself at the expense of another person\u2019s well being.\u00a0 If the answer is yes to either of these questions, then the feeling of guilt is very healthy because it [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-14","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-adult-living"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=14"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":371,"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14\/revisions\/371"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=14"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=14"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.joycejuster.com\/thoughts\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=14"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}